HOW TO KEEP HAPPY– Through tough times, good times and all of the time!

Despite the hard times, the sad times and the times you feel like nothing will ever get better, or like it’s the end of the world, you must continue to be happy, or else what’s the point of truly living. A life without happiness is no life at all, and although that may sound cliché, it’s true. I’m sure you all have had your fair share of downs where it really seems like at that moment in time you will never get over whatever it is making you feel so down. The truth is, you will. Every day is different, every year comes with a thousand changes and nothing ever stays the same. Look back at your life in 2013 for example. That was just four short years ago but I’m sure most of your lives were completely different. For me, mine sure was! I was working in retail at Juicy Couture, going to college and studying all night long 5 days a week, had a different boyfriend and was friends with some who I don’t even speak to anymore.

I’m sure some of the things I’m writing right now most of you have heard before, and I know this isn’t something I would typically put on my blog, as this is not an advice column “lol,” but I just want to share some of the things that I do and try to tell myself to strive to be the happiest I can be.

The year of 2017 has ultimately been one of the worst years of my entire life. I won’t get into detail as to why but those of you who really know me know why this is. I’m writing this because I’m sure most of my followers, or anyone who stumbles upon my blog has been through tough times, where as I’ve mentioned before feels like it’s the end and theirs no overcoming it. Being unhappy is probably the worst feeling in the world, and if you’re like me who struggles with severe anxiety you know that happiness is a key element to overcoming it. Therefore it is crucial to try and keep happy no matter what the circumstances may be.

When I was younger, I would think things like feeling left out by a group of friends or a middle school boyfriend breaking up with me was the end of the world, and it caused me to be unhappy. Now that I’m older, I see that things could be much worse and I tend to realize what really matters in life. Things such as family, doing what makes you happy and living a healthy and genuine lifestyle is what really matters.

What works for me when it comes to being genuinely happy is to realize, like I have said before,  that nothing stays the same! If you’re not happy with something in your life, change it! Not happy with your job? Find a new one. Unhappy in your relationship? Get out. Feel stuck where you are? Move, or go on a vacation. Nothing is impossible. You are never stuck! It’s 100000% true that life is much too short to be anything but happy. If something were to happen to you next week could you honestly say that you are satisfied with the way your life is right now? If not, you are not stuck. Especially if you’re young, something that I’ve realized is not to rush things. Sure I’m stressed out because I don’t have a job with my degree yet, that sometimes it feels like I work so hard on my YouTube and blog for nothing and that I will never be successful, or that I still live in Michigan and my dream is to move somewhere warm. What helps me get over this and calm myself is to look at the good things going on in my life. Also, if you are not where you want to be make sure you are working and giving it your all to be where you want to be! At least then you cannot get down on yourself because you’re trying.

“The fact that you are not where you want to be should be enough motivation.”

This blog may seem like it’s all over the place and I may be getting off topic here and there, but I basically just wanted to come on here and share my late night thoughts and hopefully help some of you who may be feeling the same way that I am. As I sit here at my parents house with my dog cuddled up next to me, I can’t help but think is life really that bad? Sure, 2017 has been the worst year of my life, but wishing for 2018 to roll around as quick as possible isn’t going to help any. I’m healthy, I have a great boyfriend who is always there for me, as well as my family who loves me. I have a good current job and I have recently been traveling more than I would have ever dreamed I would be able to. So, although life has thrown a lot of punches these past few months, I don’t just want to give up on 2017 because I know I have the power to stay happy, regardless of all the heartaches, losses and stress I have been dealing with. I’m not going to give up, nor do I want to! I have so much ahead of me and I don’t want to be a sad and depressed person and let all of these things take me to that place, because that’s not who I am.

Of course it will never be completely easy to just get over horrible things that happen, but the least we can do is try. It’s never been easy to not feel discouraged when you feel like your life is in limbo, and it has definitely never been easy to stay happy all of the time, because life is life and that’s just impossible. I will say one last thing, however, it really is true when they say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, because although I’ve felt pretty broken lately, I feel stronger than ever. 🙂

 

xoxo,

 

-Sélah